Adjusting a Guest list for the Pandemic


We’ve all been thru it this year due to covid. Seriously, things have been unpleasant on the Small business side, but absolute craziness on the Bride & Groom side.


It definitely doesn’t help when each county holds different rules to abide by, some enforced, some not enforced and whether or not your vendor is able to function at that specific time. 


So how do you deal with subtracting from your guest list without hurting too many feelings including your own? 


First things First. Step back with your fiancé and recognize it isn’t your fault. Life sometimes has a different plan than we do. Adjusting course is the only option we have. This isn’t your fault, and if anyone gives you a hard time for having to do what’s necessary to have your day, their only concern is themselves and that may not be someone you want at your wedding in the first place. 


Second step I would suggest is to send out a text message blast. Just a simple message stating something along the lines of “ We want to thank everyone for your support during this time. As you know this pandemic has made some difficult changes for all of us. At this time we are working with our vendors in consideration to everyone’s safety regarding attending our wedding. We’ll provide more information soon” 


At this point you’ll want to reach out to your vendors. If your Venu is hosting your ceremony and your reception, determine what rules they have in place for everyone’s safety in order to see what changes you’ll need to make. Here in California things have been changing a lot due to the Rona. See if there are any alterations that can be made. Such as social distance seating outside if they have the capacity. Weigh your options with your fiancé to see what would work best for you both. 


3rd, talk with your Family members and your wedding party. These are your loved ones that are closest to you. Talk with them regarding real expectations. How they feel about the pandemic and traveling and what their comfort levels are. This will help you understand how they feel and if some are unwilling to travel due to the feeling of safety. Remember, it isn’t your fault nor is it theirs. 


Last but not least, start this conversation now. Don’t wait until the last minute. Specially if you have guests attempting to fly in from out of state or even out of the country. The sooner you have this conversation, the more time you’ll give others to mull over what is happening and hopefully come to an understanding if they’re being asked to stay home. 


Define your new wedding guest list. Determine what the parameters are for you and your fiancé’s guests and stick to it. This will help you a ton. Having a family only guest list, or locals only is definitely understandable at this time. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 


This is your wedding and this day is about the love you and your fiancé have for each other. 

Hard decisions will more than likely have to be made due to these current circumstances, however, if you two can navigate thru this you can navigate thru anything! You got this!!


If you have any questions please feel free to message me below.